How to shape your mindset

Written for Quora: How did you change your attitude towards people, yourself and life?

There were times when I was thinking that the whole world is against me. I thought that my life is falling apart.

It wasn’t. I was.

It took a lot of pain of learning the life lessons the hard way in order to understand how to become an effective human being in this world.

I want to save your time and share my ideas on the topic with you.

Why jealousy is counter-productive

Written for Quora: Why don’t good looking and popular people ever suffer in life? Their life seems to be perfect and it doesn’t seem fair how they have it easy, while others struggle.

You may see all these “perfect” people on Instagram.

Good looks, fancy clothes, amazing sceneries on the background. Have you ever felts a spike of jealousy inside your heart?

I want to discuss the mindset towards someone’s success. There are 3 pieces of it that are of my particular interest.

Shall we?

How to recover from a burnout

7 steps I took to reignite myself

There were times when I was burned out. I was working too much on the job that wasn’t intellectually challenging and didn’t give me a sense of fulfillment. I was tired from routine. Probably all of my closest people would have said to me that I looked tired.

Some people turned away from me thinking that I became worse as a person. They said that I’ve changed.

“You are not the person I used to know.”

Anger management and EQ. How to deal with your anger

Written for Quora: How can I possibly get rid of all this anger I have?

Remember the last time you got possessed by the anger?

I don’t.

I forgot what the real anger is. The rage. I forgot about the hatred. I even forgot the feelings and sensations in the body associated with them. But I wasn’t always like this.

When I was younger I used to feel angry at many things. No one taught me how to control it and what should I do with it. I had to learn it the hard way.

You don’t have to.

How to recover from the breakup

The dialogue with a broken heart

Mik is a good man.

He is smart, witty, and can’t hide his kind heart behind a pretentious “I am a dick” mask.

His Dad is from the US and is a mix of Hungarian and Italian blood and lives on Rhode Island. His Mom is half-Brit and half Irish but born and raised in New Zealand so Mik calls her kiwi with love and makes fun of her British pride. She lives on a boat with her husband sailing over the channels of Mother England. Mik comes to visit her once in a while.

When I ask him he calls Korea his home. He lived here for over 12 years. Having both US and NZ passports he finds his life in Korea comfortable, sometimes too much.

Out of this 12 years, 3 of them he lives with panic attacks.

How to win people and make friends

11 rules of successful communication

In this essay, I will cover the principles of the conversation dynamics that will help you to become better at any interaction you engage in.

If I think about it thoroughly there are really not that many secrets of successful communication.

Here is my list of must-know things that will dramatically improve your interpersonal skills upon implementation:

How to understand men

A letter-guide to a woman from a man

It is impossible for me to tell you all the things that I want without you being offended or you interrupting me so I’ve decided to write you a letter.

If you will take your time and process all the things that I write here, your understanding of me will deepen, your abilities to mitigate our conflicts will grow and our life together will become better as a whole.

Ok, here we go.